It’s March and the weather is warming, then cooling, then raining, then snowing. My body is in a fight to survive this weather. I have Fibromyalgia and CFS/ME. I am in 24/7 pain and have exhaustion that can hit so severely that I cannot climb the stairs without my heart bounding and getting out of breath.
Several years ago after two years of my horses in rehab my instructor went to my husband to discuss my future as a rider. I truly think she thought she was helping. Frustrated no doubt by illnesses she just could not get her head around and a personal philosophy of “Just rub dirt in it and go on.” She believed it was time for me to sell both my horses and give up riding. So in the winter, during my worst time, she told me this with my husband. At the barn, in front of everyone. My poor husband just wanting the best for me and believed she was right. I felt betrayed and devastated.
I see this all too often. Trainers and instructors telling people that their horses are no good (after the trainers ruin them) and riders that they are just not able to ride anymore. This is not an issue of whether riders with illness or physical pain should or can ride. This is an issue of an uneducated group of people that do not know how to teach or train anything that is not the most resilient and tough. Along the way horses get discarded and riders break.
I spiraled down into sadness, confusion and depression. Still there was that tiny flame in me that was enough for me to say-NO. This is not what is right for me and I want to find those that will support me in my dreams and goals. I had to find a way.
The solution was the Classical methods. No force riding. I had taken this approach with the damaged horses I had rehabbed throughout my life but never ever thought how no force, for my body was key. Horses are repaired and kept sound this way by the Classical methods. Why not riders? Riders of all physical levels can produce lovely results with their horses and continue to do the thing that feeds their soul. Yet how many Masters or trainers even consider riders like myself? As a trainer I am devoted to helping everyone achieve their desires. No force, no pain, no limits. Just kindness, understanding, joy and peace. Now let’s get going.
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